Thursday, December 25, 2014
A Much Different Christmas!
Last Year, We had a nice Corner next to Our Fire Place, that Our Tree Stood! All decorated and The Christmas Decorations were put out all over the Living room and a Nice Christmas Wreath, hung on our door! We usually Cooked a Big Dinner either at My Mother in Laws or my Moms place.
Things are much Different this year. We have a 12 inch table tree, that a friend gave us, sitting on our table with some bulbs hanging on it in our tiny motel room. I do not mind at all though, because we have a roof over our heads! Unable to get to my Moms and My Mother in Law is no longer with us, but with Her Husband in Heaven. My Daughter and our 2 Grandsons are staying with her Boyfriend, in a tiny apartment that hardly has room for anyone else, so I will go to my daughters boyfriends, help cook a Christmas dinner, and bring a few plates back to the motel room for My Husband, Our son and myself. It has been a Very Depressing and Sad time this Holiday Season, but I have been doing my Best at staying Positive and keeping My Faith in God. We all have. My Thoughts keep wanting to go back to the days where we Celebrated Christmas with the Families, but that wont happen this year. I am Very Thankful that I have my husband and son, and we get to see our daughter and grandsons on Christmas, but so much has changed and so much we miss.
We don't mind if we do not get Presents. Just to have Faith in God, some food, gas for our dying car, lol, Clean Clothes, and each other for support, is all that Matters.I see so many people posting about what they did or what they are going to do for Christmas, and I am Happy for them, Really. I do not want anyone to feel Miserable just because things are not that great for us. I want Everyone to have a Blessed Holiday Season. We will be Blessed in Gods Time and we already are! :)
We have had to swallow our pride this past year and it has been Very Trying! We had went through some tough things this last year and with that, I decided, really I had no choice, to ask for help on Facebook and Online. We have had Many shut the Door on us because of this, but in return, We have met some of the most Kindest, Compassionate and Understanding People to walk the Earth! A Couple of Friends sent us a box of clothing and a few needs for us and It felt so good to be thought of! I Hope to repay the kindness someday. I Thank God Every Day for putting them in our lives, because this has kept us off of the streets and has kept a roof over our heads, some food to eat, and now working on getting our car repaired! To me, We Already had Christmas All Year Long and My Heart will Always Remember each and Every one of you who has helped us survive! We Truly would not be here today, if it was not for these Caring Human Beings that I Now Call My Friends! Christmas was not so Lonely because of you few Special People. Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to All of you and Please just Remember to Always Count your Blessings! :)
Monday, December 15, 2014
A NEW Path to Travel!
It has been a while since I updated My Blog. I do apologize. We are still at the Motel, Thank God for having a roof over our heads. My husband has been working Part time at a local Restaurant and we have barely been able to stay here, but we have. Our car is still running, barely, but still running. We have had our ups and downs. Days without food and gas for the car. Not able to Wash our clothes at the local laundry mat, but washing them out by hand. But in the Midst of all of this, I had received and email from a Facebook friend, who Happens to be an 8 time Best Selling Author and Publisher, and she offered her mentoring services to me and asked if I was interested in Writing a Book!
I have never written before, other then this Blog, some forums, and posts, and a few small poems, so to write a Book, or to be Part of a Book, is Very New to me. I am Excited, but Nervous at the same time. I need to be stronger then ever to do this, because I have to have Confidence in myself and change my Thought process altogether. I try to stay Positive Most of the time, but do have my down days and sometimes share that with my online friends and even in this Blog.
I am now listening to some Inspiring Videos that will help train me to Stay Positive even through the darkest of times. I need to learn how to shut down that voice that keeps reminding me of how much we lost and how bad our situation is, and that is so Hard to do, but I know that I can and will accomplish this. We will never forget, but to learn how to Cope and Move on, is A New Beginning and will Create a New Path in Life which will, in return, open up a Brand New and Much Better Way of Living and so many Possibilities and Doors will be Open!
Saturday, November 8, 2014
I am Asking For Your Help Please!
We have an Arctic Cold front coming in this week, and living out in our car could be life threatening! This will Really Happen to us if we cannot find any help!
I came up with a Plan, if some of you are willing!
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Sunday, October 26, 2014
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Friday, October 24, 2014
Change is Coming!
We had such a Bad day the last few days, but Change is Coming!
I can feel it as much as I am breathing! Things are getting ready to change and I just know it! It may be Tough at the moment, but Something is in the Works for us and it is going to be So Good!
I have been working as hard as I can with what little that we have had, to get something going on the Internet, but nothing is really working well! I get a few Commissions here and there from JIC, but other then that, Nothing! But that is all about to Change!
I have been disappointed by many programs with many promises, but I can actually see people getting Cycled and Paid in the Group Constantly so I know that this is Real and I trust Josie completely!
I have found someone who Truly cares about Others who are struggling! Her whole purpose with her program is to help the Homeless and the Struggling, get back on their feet again!
I have chatted with her personally and I soon will be earning from this and what is so Wonderful about this, is that this Program is helping so many Philippines whose lives were Devastated by the Super Typhoon, Yolanda and Many, Many others as well!
The administrator of #WealthForPH or #WFP4Life, is dedicated to helping these Strong and wonderful People who has lost Everything! I Truly Admire and respect her!
Things are Changing for many right now as I am writing this, and I am on this list and we will be getting on Our feet again soon!
When this happens, I will be Paying it Forward to help others who are struggling! I have wanted to do this for so long, and it Will Happen Soon! :)
It's NOT Your Problem! Is it?
NOT a good start to the day! Everything that could go wrong, pretty much has! I am just Venting right now! I need to or I will Break Down again! I know Nobody Cares or will Read this anyways!
I am so tired of everything having to be so difficult! We still have not received Any assistance from Human Services! My husbands New Job won't start him until Next Saturday, so that threatens us from having to leave the motel now! We are HUNGRY! Have NO WAY to WASH our CLOTHES! NO GAS in the CAR! The Car itself, is getting ready to Break Down! I just want SOMETHING to GO RIGHT SOON!
Yes! I KNOW!! I am supposed to appreciate what we do have, which is almost NOTHING, and I do. but that does not make it any easier! I do know that God has seen us through so far, but I do need to Vent!
We are not on the streets YET and we woke up to another day, but this is SO HARD! I PRETEND EVERYTHING IS FINE, so Everyone is HAPPY that way! But it is not, so Sorry to Disappoint You All! I am SO SORRY to Ruin your Day!
Thursday, October 23, 2014
Negative into Positive!
I spoke earlier in my Blog about learning lessons from the hardships that we may experience! Well, Although I am still learning everyday and riding that "Emotional Rollercoaster" at times, I did experience a New Passion about "The Homeless" after we became Homeless!
We started attending a small local church in town and learned about a homeless program while we were there and contacted them for help, and after they helped pay for a couple of nights at the Motel for us, I decided to volunteer, only once so far, at this local Homeless Project called "The Jeremiah Tree". I was so happy to be a part of it and wanted to do more, but still, I wanted More people to get involved! This gave me the idea of wanting to get more online Awareness and, although I was not the first to do this, by far, I had to do something! I decided to Create an Online Community on Google+ to help Raise even More Awareness of this Homeless Problem that we do have in America!
I was so tired of being "The Victim" all of the time, and although I still get down and we do need help at times, I wanted to do something Positive with Our situation! I also decided, after several people encouraged me to write about our story, to start this Blog. It helps to be able to express my feelings and tell about what our experiences are as we are living them day to day.
I am Very passionate about this, but found out that Many are not! Homelessness is Not what people want to hear about! It is something that many do not care about! Some don't even acknowledge that it exists or refuses to see it! People are More passionate about Saving the Animals, Trees or the Enviornment then they are about Saving Human Beings and this is so Sad! People have their Priorities all screwed up! I care about all of those issues, But a Human Being should be First on the list! Atleast that is the way I see it and Believe Me! If you was to suddenly become Homeless, and it can happen to you too, You would change your views on these things! I Promise You that!
I do hope to Create Something Positive out of this Situation that we are in now, and I hope to use our Negative Experiences as a tool for Something Lasting and Positive!
Please Visit My Google+ Community and add your Local Homeless Resources!
Homeless America! Share your Story and Resources!
Wednesday, October 22, 2014
A Visit from another Angel!
I woke up a little late today, since I stayed up so late last night, feeling restless and hungry. It was a slow start to the morning, but finally got a message from a friend of my husbands, saying that he would be over. he showed up around 2 or so, in the afternoon, and brought us all a bottle of pop, which was so nice of him! He also loaned my husband a little money, so that we could get something to eat!
We was so appreciative and we were so hungry! lol. It was such a nice thing for him to do! He hung around and talked for about an hour or so, then left. We drove up to the grocery store and bought a few groceries. What a Great feeling it was to buy some food! We came straight home and ate!
God comes through in so many different ways! This was truly a Blessing once again! My husband will be starting his new job sometime soon. They hired him, but told him that they would call him in the next couple of days to come in, we are just so Thankful for this Job!
It was nice to have a Visit from a friend! We do not get those anymore! Most have forgotten us or abandoned us now! Every once in awhile, we get a visit from an Angel desguised as a friend or someone who has helped us! We always have God though, and a couple of friends left to believe in! I also have a few relatives left that do love and care about us, but just are not able to help us at this time. The rest, too, have abandoned us, but that is Ok. We will make it through, because we always have atleast One Visitor!
Another Sleepless Night!
I hate when I can't sleep! This is happening more often lately! I stay awake, my eyes open, because when I close my eyes, the race begins!
Thoughts of Everything pouring in, like a Faucet turning on! I think of Everything that we lost, and then try to convince myself at the same time that I need to stop thinking of those things! They are Gone Forever! We cannot get them back by thinking about them, but I want to hold on to those thoughts sometimes! It is so hard to let it go! The sick feeling just wants to linger as I try so hard to ignore it. A constant Battle rages back and forth as I fight with my thoughts!
I just want peace of mind again! I don't want this Reality anymore but I know that this is Real and We have to face it everyday! Another day has passed. Broke! Hungry! We need so many things! Clean Clothes! The Car problems! Bills! Catching up! Getting further behind! If we will Ever catch up and be able to start over! We are so far in the hole, How do we get back out again? My Health! My Husbands Health! My sons and Daughters Health! My Grandsons Health! Our Future! The What Ifs! The Regrets! The Mistakes! The, If I could do it overs!!!!! Racing! Racing! Racing in my head!
Just One More Time! Just One More Break! Just One More Chance to do it Right this time!
Tuesday, October 21, 2014
Trying to Keep My Head Above the Water!
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Broke, No Clean Clothes and Hungry again! My husband is Doing his Second part of his test today at his new job, then will start this week hopefully! Until then, the Bills are piling up. I feel like I am Drowning Sometimes! It feels like the walls are closing in! We are getting Closer to things getting better, yet this Dark feeling of Gloom is tapping on my shoulders again! It is a Surreal feeling and it is not good, yet I fight it as best as I can.
We will owe the Motel atleast 2 weeks and we have to keep gas in the car and the car running! It can be Very Overwhelming! We haven't had much help at all lately and so it has been really hard to keep our heads above water!
I have been working Hard on My Internet Programs trying to earn some money, but it is slow! Hoping things will pick up soon! It is keeping my mind and My Stomach occupied some to just stay busy! I have this Blog, 2 Google+ Communities, facebook and my online programs to keep me occupied for now!
We are So Very Thankful for everything that we have gotten help with and everyone who pitched in here and there! We would not be here still, if those who cared, did not come forward to help us and we are So Thankful that we do have a roof over our Heads and still a little bit of canned food left!
We just Pray for another small Miracle so that we can make it until My husband starts bringing in a regular Paycheck! God is Good All of the Time and he will Make a Way Somehow! He Always has!
Sunday, October 19, 2014
Knocked Down to Earth!
Eventually Everyone gets knocked down to earth sometimes. We are supposed to learn a Great lesson in that and not be Too proud and to Appreciate every little thing that we have and to Never take things for granted again! Especially each other!
Those who have NOT yet experienced what it is like to be "Knocked Down", do not know just how Fortunate we are! I know that sounds Crazy, but it is so True! We learn things that some will never acquire in life because they did not experience, or have the Opportunity to experience what it is like to hit rock bottom.
When life knocks us down, our Sight Changes. Our train of thought changes. Our Appreciation of even the little things Change. Our Eyes are Truly Opened! Some will go through their entire lives without these Gifts and it is a shame, really. Don't get me wrong! I do not wish any bad on anyone, but some will Always be blind to these things. They will Never Truly appreciate what they do have and will always take things for granted.
Something as Meaningless as an Oven, or a Bed or Dishes and Pots and Pans. A toaster, can opener, coffee pot, Your own bedroom, Privacy, refrigerator, microwave. A garden, neighborhood, garage, driveway. Safety, Security, Warmth, Blankets, Coats, Clothing, Shampoo, toothepaste, deoderant, personal needs, Hot Meals, Home cooked Meals. I can go on and on and on! These and many more things in life, So Many of us take for granted!
Friends and Family are another thing that we take for granted. But that is another learning Process in itself! When you Hit rock bottom, you definately will find out who Truly Cares for you And you will DEFINATELY Lose alot of "Friends and Relatives" along the way! When you get back on your feet again, I am sure, many of them will try to come back! (After the Storm has Cleared!) but that is Human Nature Sometimes.
The Moral of this Story? Take in Everything that you Learn from this Experience of being at the bottom! Use it in the Most Positive Way that you can! I am trying to! I still get down at times, of course. We all do and will, but what is the most Important thing to remember out of all of this is: GET RIGHT BACK UP AGAIN!! It won't happen overnight, and some do expect it to, but as long as you are Moving Forward, You are Going the Right Way!
Back Again!
It has been about 10 days since I have been able to update my blog. We have been riding the Emotional Roller Coaster, as usual, but things are looking up!
My husband got a job at a local Pizza place and he will start this week sometime. We will have the details, hopefully tomorrow! We will be about 2 to 3 weeks behind on the motel stay, but they agreed that we can stay until he gets paid, because they know that we are good, honest people and we will pay them. It is going to be really rough until he gets paid. I don't think some people realize what it takes to survive, even little things, like paper plates, cups, everyday household needs. grooming and personal needs, not to mention gas for the car and food to get by!
We are truly Blessed to be able to stay here now and not have to worry about being out in our car, in the cold. We also had a good Samaritan that lives in my town, from my Facebook friends, bring us some canned foods and some other things from the grocery. That too was a Blessing! The food won't last long, with 3 adults, but it sure is a Huge Help and we are Very Thankful! :)
I still miss Hot, Home cooked meals really bad, but canned food is so much better then no food and Many people who are homeless don't get even that! It is Sad that their is so many who are going Hungry right now as I am writing this, and yet so little care to do anything!
I do have a Wish List even though nobody will probably care! I would Love to get a toaster, a crock pot, an electric hot plate or something like that. A skillet or Pan to cook in and some microwaveable dishes and cookware. I could atleast make some microwaveavable Hot meals if I had something to work with! Of course we would need cooking oil and other foods too! Gas is always an issue and car repairs are too. It will take awhile to catch up with our bills and repair our car and to actually have spending money to buy these items that I want, but atleast it is a Step in the right direction and we will get there eventually!
Thursday, October 9, 2014
A Gift from God!
I have been guilty of ignoring what God wants me to do, many times. I have not been in a position to help out others Financially for awhile now and I want to so badly. There has been many that we have come across who Acted on what God wanted them to do and I see that and I admire that! I too want to act on what God wants me to do. I created a Homeless America Community on Google+ because our experience has taught me to see another side of life that I too ignored before. I have a Passion now, to help others who are Homeless, even if I cannot help financially at this time, I want to give something, not just take!
God Willing, If we Survive this Ordeal and get to a place where we can help others financially, I will be doing that! God knows that I am sincere about this! My eyes are opened so much more then they were before and it is a Gift from God. No Labels can do this to ones Heart! No matter how much you call yourself a "Christian" or "Humanitarian" or whatever label that you want to use, If you do not have it in your Heart, then Labels mean Nothing! Preaching and Advising and Helpful Tips mean NOTHING!
You Must Want to Help Others because it is in your Heart to do so and because God put it there! I cannot do much right now, but I am doing what I can, when I can, and My Heart is in the Right Place. I am not Perfect and I have my Flaws, but I do Care about others Very Much and I Thank God that I have Compassion and Love for others! What a lonely World it would be to have such a Cold Heart with no Love or Compassion!
Desperately Looking for a Job!
My husband is with a Temporary Employment Agency and has been checking with them Lately, and they may have something for him! We are Praying that they contact my husband within the next couple of days.
I have been venturing into some Online Work at Home Programs and hoping that something comes through there also. As I mentioned before in my Blog, I have some health issues that need to be addressed, and hoping to get those resolved soon, so that maybe I can get back to work too. Until then, I am unable to work outside of a "work at my own pace" type of job.
Tomorrow, once again, is our last day at the motel. We are out of Money. No gas in the car and no way to move our things out of the motel room so it is looking pretty Gloomy right now! It is getting colder outside at Night, so sleeping in our car will be a challenge, If we are even able to get the car somewhere that we can park it at and stay.
Please send Prayers! We can Really use them!
Wednesday, October 8, 2014
I am Praying for You!
We have also been Blessed by so many who have come out of the woodwork and Prayed for us, gave us money, paid our motel stay, helped with food and gas! I am praying for you!
We have been Abandoned by many. Hated and Judged by many! Disrespected and Ignored by Many! I am Praying for you!
Every Day, a new Tragedy! Someone dies or someone loses a Loved one! I am Praying for you! God Bless Everyone!
Monday, October 6, 2014
I'M Back!
Not much has happened since my last post. other then the motel did work with us and allow us to stay an extra week until we received our sons SSI so that we can pay them up until the 1st and then an extra week, so we are good here until Friday the 9th of October.
We were also Finally approved for Medical Insurance, which is a God Send Truly, and still waiting to hear about the Food Stamps. Hoping they will come in soon! We really could use them right now!
We have been up and down, some days good, and other days, like today, not so good. Running out of food is no fun, but this is part of life for "The Needy and Homeless!"
Some people do not Comprehend what it is like to be out of food, or live day by day, not knowing where we will be after Friday. The clock is Always ticking Down, but it is a Feeling that I do not Wish on Anyone!
My husband has still been actively searching for work. with no luck so far. I am hoping to get back to work also, but need to get my health situation under control first. Our Car problems are just too Expensive for us to fix right now, but hoping the car will last long enough for my husband to get a job and get his first paycheck, so we can afford to get a new radiator and coil packs for the car. One good thing is that we do have someone to put them in once we get the parts. It is just a matter of timing. Hoping that time will be on our side!
Friday, September 19, 2014
So What! Who Cares?
No Help today, so it is on the Streets for us Tomorrow! Who Cares though Right! We must Deserve it! Hey! It Aint You though, Right? So Who Cares?! No Money! No Gas! No Food! No where to go! But Who Cares! Its Not Your Problem!
We must be BAD People to get in this situation! We are Getting What we Deserve! We must do Drugs or Drink Alcohol or Steal from Others! We must Not want to work! Who Cares?!
Nightmares!
Many of you do not know just How Scary it is knowing that you could be on the Streets Tomorrow! It is a Neverending Nightmare that won't go away! Biting Fingernails, Stressing out, pacing back and forth. That feeling of Dread and Despair and Fear Overwhelms you!
We have the luxury of having a bad running car, but running none the less for now, to sleep in and we are Thankful for that. What is scary, is that it gets colder at night now and Winter is coming and We dont even have coats, but we do have a Blanket and a couple of throws and plenty of pillows that we salvaged from our house that we lost. No more money for food. No gas in the car. Not knowing where to go for a shower or waking up every morning and having to go to a public bathroom somewhere to brush our teeth and freshen up. No more Coffee or Breakfast. No phone or way to communicate with anyone! Yes! This is Scary and Yes! This is REAL! And Yes! This Will Happen to us Starting TOMORROW!
Others are and Have been going through this Right NOW! PLEASE HELP! If not us, Will you Please Help atleast One Person, Couple or Family in your area that is Homeless! PLEASE! You Can Make a World of Difference to them! Please Look up your Local Homeless Projects and Programs in your Area and Donate, Volunteer, or just Find a Homeless Person and Give them a Warm Meal or Blankets, Coats, Food or whatever! SOMETHING! JUST DO SOMETHING PLEASE!
Thursday, September 18, 2014
The UnDeserving!
Now this post excludes the very few,(Few as in a handful of folks, compared to the Tens of Thousands out there,) who have Shown Compassion, has helped us, and Prayed for us!
I am trying to figure out Why it is, that so Many feel that when one is in need, that they do not deserve it, because they did not earn it, or did not work as hard as you, or they are to blame for their own situation, or they have a Sense of entitlement, so therefore You will not Help them! I know! Get a Job! or Earn it like I Did! What if that Person is Really Trying to? Like I said in an earlier post, some have More Obstacles to Overcome then Others, Like car Problems and Repairs and lack of money to fix the car, or Having no form of Transportation at all!
I understand that we are Strangers to most of you. I also understand that many out there take advantage of others. I also understand that many abuse drugs, alcohol, or just the money that may be given to them. I do understand that!
Why is it that around Christmas time only, once a Year, Giving and Helping the needy becomes the FAD? You donate toys or clothes or Money to Christmas Charities, Sponser a Family, Volunteer for the local Thanksgiving or Christmas "Feed The Homeless" Meal, but when the Holidays Pass, Oh! I did my Part for the needy! And then it is Gone! That PUSH to Help is Done for a Whole Entire Year! I know that Many Volunteer and Help All year Round and I Commend you for that! I would also, if I was able, and I do some when I can and I will do more when I get to the point where we have the extra money to do it! But My Point is, Although I know that This is YOUR Money that YOU Worked Hard for, which I Respect, If you have extra, Why not Help others? I know that this is not a Popular Topic, but if you try it, You Just may be Blessed so much More then what you Give and in Many ways. Not just Financially, but it does something inside of you that you can Never Trade! Knowing that you Did an Act of Kindness for someone and Putting Joy in that persons Heart, in Return puts Joy in Your Own!
I Do Love Helping Others and Have in the past and some now in different ways. I Love it! I Cannot Wait until that day comes when I can Give Back to so many who need it! I have Always had a Giving Heart and I have always tried to see the Good in Everyone! Why Can't You? Especially those of you who have so much money that you do not know what to do with it! I Know! Change Someones Life for the Better! That is what I would Do!
Random Acts of Kindness!
The last few days was yet another Trial, to say the least. No food but a few canned goods and we were Thankful for that, but I still developed a horrible headache that would not go away! I became so sick by yesterday evening as my headache slowly transformed into a migrane and the nausea was upon me. I posted something about it on facebook about hunger pains and a terrible headache and was going to take a nap, and Once Again, Some Angels appeared and sent us a little so we could Eat!
It is because of "These Angels" that we have survived this far! It has been over two Months since we were evicted and we have only slept in the car Once since we have been "Homeless" and that was mainly from these Angels that were sent to us! We had paid a couple of weeks ourselves and The Jeremiah Tree helped us for a few days also, Whom are also Angels, but most of this was from my Wonderful Friends from Facebook!
I am So Truly Blessed to have them in our lives! We had Nobody that Cared other then a Dear friend that I grew up with and a Good Friend of my Husbands, who, in spite of him being in just about as bad shape as we were, still helped move things into my friends garage, which they allowed us to keep our important belongings that we saved before we had to be out of the house, and that was it! We had No Help to move anything out of the house, except for Our things. and we could not afford storage or a UHaul.
Although my husband got a job soon after we were evicted, The Car problems started. First the Brakes went out and we had no money to fix them, then another Angel helped us with the brakes, but it took awhile to finally find someone to fix them, so my husband had to let his job go. We finally did, and got that taken care of, so my husband called his job and told them that he had the car fixed and asked for another chance, and they hired him back after a few days. Then the Car started shaking and getting hot. We did not want to warp the heads. We had to keep water in it and still do, Once again, he had no choice but to let his job go again. His job is about 10 miles away in the next town over and could not drive it that far with it overheating and leaking water. A few people finally looked at it, including a mechanic shop, and said it was the water pump. but turned out, his friend made arrangements for us to take the car to his friends house, who works on cars all of the time, and we found out that there is a leak in the radiator. So Car problems have been involved alot through this time, and this has been why my husband has had a hard time getting and keeping a job. Obstacles in our path.
During this entire time, we have encountered Random Acts of Kindness that has helped us with gas, to get to local appointments and pantries and such, with food so we have not gone hungry much. With Prayers, Encoragement and Love that we so Deeply needed! This has helped us through so far and We are So Grateful for everyone who helped us!
We are still in bad shape and we Was so hoping to be caught up by now, but due to these Obstacles and a few bills that Has to be paid, a car Title loan, and court fines, plus car issues, It has been Very Difficult to Get Back on our feet!
Our first goal is to be at a point where we can pay a whole month here at the motel at once. It ends up being Cheaper then daily or weekly but we have not been able to do that yet. Once we get this car fixed and my husband gets a job again, we can pay off these other bills and work out Bi-Weekly Payments to the motel. We racked up high Utility Bills when my husband lost his job at the house, so the Motel life is our only option at this time, since we pay no utilities here.
Tomorrow is Our Last day here! We will be living in Our Car! This is yet Another reason why we Need to keep the car running, so that atleast we wont be, "Literally" on the streets! Once the car goes, so does our shelter!
Wednesday, September 17, 2014
Leave an IMPRESSION!
Think about what The Homeless does not have! The security of having a safe place to sleep at night. Not knowing where you may be from day to day. Not knowing when or where your next Meal will be. Not having clean clothes or enough clothes. Not always having a Coat or Blankets to keep warm. Not having any Friends or Family to talk to.
Now think about how you would feel not having a Car. Not having a phone. Not having a computer. Not able to go out to eat or go to the movies, or not having a television or Cable. Not having someone to invite you to Parties or Cookouts. Not Having Any form of Outside Communication! Not having Jewelry or a Watch to keep time. Not having any Money at all.
Just Think about How You would Feel and be Honest within yourselves. "That Would Never Happen to Me!" So you say! I Have Rich Relatives to Fall back on! I Am Financially Secure for the Rest of My Life! I Would NEVER Allow Myself to become Homeless!
We All may not be born into the same upbringing or support system or with money or with a Well adjusted Family way or taught the same things about Morals, or How important it is to keep up your Credit Scores, or How Impotant it is to always work and save up for your Future and How to Properly Plan for your future and How Important it is to go to College!
Not Everyone was Blessed with being Born into a Great Life with a Positive Support System around Them! Is that their Fault? True that Anyone Can succeed and make a Better Life if they Really Put their all into it. But the Fact is, is that there are many more obstacles for some to overcome then others and that makes it much more complicated for those who have fell into a hole and Many Refuse to Acknowledge that! This is why we NEED to Give Hope to the "so called Hopeless" that many of you want to Label! They need our Love, Support and Kindness and ENCOURAGEMENT to get them back on their feet again! Not Hate, Bullying, Stereotyping, Judgement, Discouragement, Disappointment and Anger! Many of them have had enough of that growing up as it is, and that is why many of them are in this situation in the first place! UNDO what has been Done to them! Because the Fact is, in the end, We Cant take Anything with us, But can Leave an Everlasting Impression!
No Food Once again!
Well, we went to the Salvation Army this morning to see if we could get a food voucher, but they was all out! They usually have you call in and you only have a limited time to do it in the morning and it is usually busy and if you do finally get through, we usually get a recoding that says that they are out of vouchers and try again next week! He said that they were out and try again Monday so that was a big disappointment. We are allowed to get Hot foods from the Deli at the store that they use for those vouchers and that sounded so good! Dont get me wrong, We are grateful for whatever we can get, but these pantries and very few churches that do help with food, does not always cater to microwaves and not having cooking facilities, so it can be tricky at times. We are Very Fortunate to be in a motel with a small Refridgerator and a microwave. That is much more then many Homeless have, but then again, we will be on the streets after Friday too if that is Gods Plan.
Tuesday, September 16, 2014
Something To Think About!
I have been testing the waters all day, just to see if I would get any kind of Response, and although we Truly Need the Help, Not One person helped or messaged me or showed any concern! This is my Whole Point on How others Conceive the Homeless and we all need to Change Our Perception of things! We have been brought up in a Society that is All about Possessions, Looks, Fashion and anyone with Anything less then that, is not worth the time! We have also been desensitized through the past years from all of the violence and gore and Evil and Vanity in the World on television, Internet, Video Games and the Care and Compassion is slowly slipping away from the Human race!
No Coats Yet!
Well we went to the local Free Clothing Closet and found a few things that we needed, but No Coats. It is not too cold yet, But here in Ohio, Winter is not far off! The Clothing Closet is Open Every Tuesday so maybe we will find some next week. My Husband should be working before then but will be a couple more weeks before he will get paid. It is scary not knowing if we will be living in our car after Friday and not knowing where our next hot meal will be coming from. This is Not a Picnic by Far but we will be Trusting in God that he will send the right people to help us and our son. The Stress is so Unbearable sometimes and it is Really starting to effect my Health and Probably my husbands as well. We have a little more paperwork to turn in to the local Human Services Dept. to see if we qualify for help until My husband is back to work. We are Truly Thankful for what we do have because so many have far less then us and I Pray for those who will be hungry and out in the Cold this Winter and even Now! I Hope that you will find it in your Hearts to Help Your Local Homeless! They Really Need You!
YES! We Need HELP!
Yes! We do Need Help and I am not going to let my pride get in the way of that, Not when we need things like food to survive, a radiator for our car and gas, and a roof over our heads, especially with the cold weather coming, but We do want to get back on our feet again! Believe me! We dont like this any more then You do! I am sharing my Side post because I updated another way that you could possibly help us, a local Homeless project and you could also get some of your Early Christmas shopping done, all at the same time! I hope that you understand that We are Not Bad People! We Do Not do Drugs or Party! We go to Church and We Love God! We are by far, Not Perfect, but we are Good and Honest People who Have been going through a series of unplanned, unexpected and unfortunate events! And My Husband Is Working on getting his last job back! He lost it twice now because of car problems! Please Consider Helping if you Can! We will get out of this soon, but we just need some support from those who Truly Care and if it had not been for those Caring Folks from Facebook,Church and The Jeremiah Tree, we would Not have made it this far! God Bless you!
I Never thought it would happen to us, but it did! Lost Job and Income. Getting way behind on bills. Getting Utilities shut off one by one. And Finally the Dreaded Eviction Notice. Life through the Eyes of what we have, and still are facing, day by day.
We just need to get back on our feet, like many Homeless folks do, so if you have a little to donate, We would be Truly Grateful to you! My Paypal address is shellyxen@gmail.com Also, if you want to help in another way, I will Donate 10% off All of my sales to The Jeremiah Tree! If anyone Orders any Candles or Tarts from me from my Jewelry in Candles website, I will personally donate 10% of all earnings to them! They will make Awesome Gifts to give for the Holidays or any Occasion! Hidden Jewelry inside Every Candle or Tart thats ordered! My Website is Shellyscents-jewelryincandles! Thank you and God Bless you for your support and Compassion!
Monday, September 15, 2014
Wherever the Road Leads!
I May be offline for awhile. I had this laptop as a loaner, but may lose it tomorrow. I will do my Best to update you all as soon as I can! In the meantime, I hope you All will get involved with my Google+ page for the Homeless and Get Involved in Your Community! Even if you could just Donate Blankets, Coats, Food, Clothing or even Money to the Homeless Programs in your area, It will make a Huge Difference in Someones Life! Please Save this Blog and I will stay in Touch when I can! We are Not sure where we will be after this Friday so wherever the road leads us, I will find a way Back! God Bless You All! :)
Giving to People Who Give!
From a Friend on Facebook Today!
I'm in tears. This was awesome. More people need to do this daily. Shelly Hargis, add this to your blog. This shows there are people out there that care about helping the homeless. Plus it shows how strong the ignorance is towards those that are homeless and asking for help. Like the guy who just assumed this 'homeless looking guy' needs to just get a job. Why didn't this man stop and ask what his skill set was and offer him a job at his place of business? maybe the homeless man has a silent/invisible disability that forbids him from gainful employment? So many other questions I could list. Too many people 'judge by the book cover'. I likely did this from time to time as well and hate myself for doing this and try to not do this. Yet, in this busy hustle bustling world today it's hard to stop and just put yourself into their position if you have never been there yourself so that you could better understand the possible reasons that put them there. Bad enough that I know I will likely experience being homeless one more time(I've had a few short experiences of being homeless and living in group shelters.). I want to move to Florida. Sure, I have family and a few friends there, but I don't want to impose upon them my presence in their home for long period of time if they were to offer a couch to crash on. Perhaps they won't, therefore, I would need a shelter. I will have to find a storage rental place for my uhaul belongings I take with me and then sleep in shelters till I can secure housing. My FBF Shelly is homeless and has swallowed her pride and is creating homeless awareness online, here at facebook. She doesn't have a supportive family unit. They have turned their back on her. (Maybe not all of them, but most). This happens because of the peoples ignorance about the homeless. This happens because they are not compassionate caring individuals. Or they have this idealism that helping the homeless person only keeps them homeless and lazy? Or perhaps they feel that their relative is 'taking advantage of their own generosity? We never know what reasons, regardless of how disturbingly idiotic they may be, cause relatives to say NO or Yes to a homeless relative. I have found out over these last few years that it is the NON -Relatives that are more supportive towards a homeless friend than is a relative towards a relative. This is why I have decided that I will not try to impose on my relatives or floridian 'friends' the burden of bunking me when I ever decide to make a move south. For all I know. I may be lucky and secure housing before I even spend a permanent day 1 in Florida.
I'm in tears. This was awesome. More people need to do this daily. Shelly Hargis, add this to your blog. This shows there are people out there that care about helping the homeless. Plus it shows how strong the ignorance is towards those that are homeless and asking for help. Like the guy who just assumed this 'homeless looking guy' needs to just get a job. Why didn't this man stop and ask what his skill set was and offer him a job at his place of business? maybe the homeless man has a silent/invisible disability that forbids him from gainful employment? So many other questions I could list. Too many people 'judge by the book cover'. I likely did this from time to time as well and hate myself for doing this and try to not do this. Yet, in this busy hustle bustling world today it's hard to stop and just put yourself into their position if you have never been there yourself so that you could better understand the possible reasons that put them there. Bad enough that I know I will likely experience being homeless one more time(I've had a few short experiences of being homeless and living in group shelters.). I want to move to Florida. Sure, I have family and a few friends there, but I don't want to impose upon them my presence in their home for long period of time if they were to offer a couch to crash on. Perhaps they won't, therefore, I would need a shelter. I will have to find a storage rental place for my uhaul belongings I take with me and then sleep in shelters till I can secure housing. My FBF Shelly is homeless and has swallowed her pride and is creating homeless awareness online, here at facebook. She doesn't have a supportive family unit. They have turned their back on her. (Maybe not all of them, but most). This happens because of the peoples ignorance about the homeless. This happens because they are not compassionate caring individuals. Or they have this idealism that helping the homeless person only keeps them homeless and lazy? Or perhaps they feel that their relative is 'taking advantage of their own generosity? We never know what reasons, regardless of how disturbingly idiotic they may be, cause relatives to say NO or Yes to a homeless relative. I have found out over these last few years that it is the NON -Relatives that are more supportive towards a homeless friend than is a relative towards a relative. This is why I have decided that I will not try to impose on my relatives or floridian 'friends' the burden of bunking me when I ever decide to make a move south. For all I know. I may be lucky and secure housing before I even spend a permanent day 1 in Florida.
A New Day!
We have alot to get done today. Now that we have the car in better running shape, my husband is trying to get his old job back. He is now waiting to hear back from his old manager. We are Praying that she will give him another chance. We are almost out of food again and gas, but atleast we are paid up at the Motel until Friday. I have some paperwork to turn in at the local Human Services Department and then I am going to try to go to the Jeremiah Tree to Volunteer some. Our tire is bald in the front passenger side, so hoping it will hold out a little longer also. Just Wingin it as long as we can! We have Hope in God that All things will come together and they will! We are just Very Thankful for this New Day! :)
YOU have a Purpose!
My husband and I attended church today, and they are teaching right now, about "What is Our Purpose". It is funny in a way because just two weeks ago, when we attended church and, as I mentioned in an earlier post about The Jeremiah Tree, how a Lady named Marlene was talking about the project and what they hope to do for the Homeless, has Inspired me and right then and there, I felt that I had found my Purpose. Well, maybe that is a small part of "My Purpose", but it is So Much Bigger then that and not just for me, but for Everyone!
God has a Purpose for Each of us and as we travel through our Journeys here on earth, As long as we grow closer to God, we will learn more and more about Our Purpose because God Already Created Each one of us and Already knows what our purpose is. We just have to seek him out and Our Purpose will be revealed little by little. We are All a Part of Gods Greater Scheme of things, and each and every one of us has a part in it.No one was here by Accident! No one is Useless! There are accidental Pregnancies, or illlegitimate Parents, But YOU are No Accident or Illegitimate! That goes for Everyone INCLUDING the Homeless, Helpless, and Hopeless! You have a Purpose! You are Just as Worthy as Everyone Else! :)
A New Google+ Community!
I have been working Real hard on my New Google+ Community and I hope you all find it in your hearts to join and share your local Resources for the Homeless! I know that their are Many Humanitarians who care about the Homeless! Please Join and Help! Thank you so much! :)
HOMELESS AMERICA!
HOMELESS AMERICA!
HEY YOU?! The Judgemental, Stereotyping, Hateful and Non Compassionate!
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INSTEAD of Just Jumping to Conclusions and JUDGING, Like Most people do about Homelessness, Actually Read this whole Blog and other TRUE Stories and SEE WHY!
I decided to write about OUR experience specifically because of people like You, who Need to read and Educate yourself to the Fact that there are MANY Decent People and Families that are Homeless now a days that are NOT always due to the Stereotypical Reasons that People Like you seem to LABEL as Homeless! JUDGE FIRST then LEARN FACTS LATER! DO YOU BELIEVE that we WANT to be HOMELESS? DO YOU THINK that most People that are HOMELESS WANTED that LIFE? WHAT about the Innocent Children? Do we just Ignore them also? Their is ALWAYS a Story behind a Homeless person, couple or Family! If the WORLD would Start Seeing that, Then maybe More People would CARE instead of HATE the HOMELESS and Look at them Through LOVING EYES instead of Judgemental and Eyes of DISGUST! It Baffles my Mind to see just hoe hateful people are when it comes to the Homeless! Just because someone Loses their job or Home. Does that mean that they must SUFFER for the Rest of their Lives or be CONDEMNED for Eternity? When People Get into a HOLE, They sometimes have No Way of Catching up and Getting back out of that Hole! Not Everyone has a Rich Relative or Friend who will help them get back on their feet! Not Everyone has Credit Cards or a Bank Account to fall back on! Does THAT Make them HORRIBLE? Many who become Homeless, Become Helpless because they have No Way to get back Up on their Feet and they lose HOPE! If You Dislike the Homeless so much. then Instead of Sitting Back and Condeming them. Help Someone get back on their feet! Once Many of us are given the opportunity to Get Back Up. Many of us will STAY UP! YES I KNOW! HANDOUTS! OH MY GOD! ITS HORRIBLE! GOD FORBID that We Do Not Deserve a Helping Hand! We Just may Go and Buy some DRUGS or ALCOHOL with it! And yes. Some do. But their are other Ways to Help the Homeless. Give them Jobs and supply a way for them to get back and forth to that job. Or Take some time to get to know one or more of us and then work with them to get them the help that they need without giving them Cash. Volunteer at your local Homeless project or Donate directly to help provide more food, clothing and Housing for the Homeless and help implement programs that will help the homeless get jobs and the education and the transportation that they need to get back on their feet again! We are ALL Living, Breathing Human Beings who deserve a Second Chance to Make it Right and to Have a Life again! Please Remember that!
The Jeremiah Tree!
I have not been able to log on ever since I got back from The Jeremiah Tree today. I am barely on now. I am having computer/WiFi issues. I had a Busy, but Wonderful day today helping out at the Jeremiah Tree! We sorted clothes and I cleaned the bathroom and dusted and then went with a few of the volunteers to pick up a TON of donated clothes and shoes and hangers for a yard sale that they are going to have at the end of the month. I am going back tomorrow if they are still working tomorrow and helping more. I Love being there and the People are Wonderful. I met a few Awesome folks today who was there for help and their stories touched my heart. I met a man who has two children and a girlfriend and they are homeless and his story touched my heart so much, after he left, I broke down and cried. I want to help SO BADLY and I hope and Pray to see more and more people donate their time, clothing and money to these programs. These people work so hard and try to help as many people as they can, but there is not enough funding to go around and Programs like these NEED US to Help. ANYONE in the XENIA, Ohio and surrounding areas, if you want to help donate, food, clothing or Money to a GREAT Cause, I encourage you to consider The Jeremiah Tree! Donate to Your Local Homeless Project or Programs! Or even Volunteer! They can always use the help. I went to Bible Study tonight and really enjoyed that also. This was a Great Day to really help, even if it was just a little bit, I still felt productive and I felt more connected to others! Not so Alone Anymore! :)
THE JEREMIAH TREE!
The "MISS" List!
I think about it all of the time! I guess we all do, but being Homeless, I guess "the Miss" lists may vary in some ways, they are still similar in general.
Things that are on my "Miss List" are: walking through the front door of our home, curling up on our couch and watching television on the big screen t.v., hearing my grandsons running around playing or even arguing with each other, my kitchen, my oven, Hot, home cooked meals, the fire place, the basement, the garage, the trees in our yard, the park around the corner, the community center and kids club, the kids, the neighbors, the sounds of the soccer games nearby, looking out of our picture window, stepping outside on the front porch to check the mail, doing our own laundry in the basement, my car in the driveway, the driveway. Just somewhere to call Home!
Things that are on my "Miss List" are: walking through the front door of our home, curling up on our couch and watching television on the big screen t.v., hearing my grandsons running around playing or even arguing with each other, my kitchen, my oven, Hot, home cooked meals, the fire place, the basement, the garage, the trees in our yard, the park around the corner, the community center and kids club, the kids, the neighbors, the sounds of the soccer games nearby, looking out of our picture window, stepping outside on the front porch to check the mail, doing our own laundry in the basement, my car in the driveway, the driveway. Just somewhere to call Home!
Laundry Day!
Yesterday was a Great day, other then going without food most of the day. Last night, A few Wonderful Friends sent us some money to get something to eat, so we got some food and it was so good after going all day without. We watched a little t.v., then headed to bed.
I woke up feeling refreshed, but knew we had to wash some clothes. Since we received those funds last night, we can now do some Laundry! It is embarrassing to admit, but we haven't had clean clothes for a few days now. It will be so nice to get them washed finally!
We used to take things like food and clean clothes, for granted, But Not anymore!
Our son has an appointment at 2pm, and after that, Off to the Laundrymat!
Today was a Great Day!
My husband and I decided to go to church this morning at a small church here in town where they have rented a small building in a small shopping center and made their own worship center for those who want to gather together and worship. We had received help from them a few weeks ago with some food, and they invited us to go to their service and we planned on going last Sunday but missed it due to our cell phone dying the day before, and not having an alarm to wake up to, so we overslept. Well Thank God we went today, because, not only did we get a Blessing from the message, but I also found my Calling! This small group of people happen to be at the Heart of a Homeless Project here in town called The Jeremiah Tree! We spoke after the service and I may get to be involved in helping out in this program after I had mentioned to them about this Blog and having some Computer skills. I am Truly excited and cannot wait to meet with them Tuesday. They also paid us through Friday at this motel that we are staying in, so We were Blessed in many ways today! God is So Great! I hope to Inspire Others to get involved with your local Homeless projects, whether it is to volunteer your time, or to Donate funds, or to just Help Spread Awareness and encourage others to do the same! YOU Can make a World of Difference in Someone's Life! <3
Countdown begins Again!
We are paid up until Sunday Morning at 11am, Sept., 7th, 2014, then We do not know where we will be. This is a Constant Worry and the Stress can be Overwhelming at times! Imagine not knowing where you will be Tomorrow? How you are going to get fed? How you are going to get your clothes washed? This is REALLY Happening to us, and to Many People out there Right Now! If you can get involved in helping your local Homeless shelters or Sharing information with your friends about Homelessness in America, You can make a World of difference, even if it was just for one person, couple or Family! Please Help!
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